Francois_Dumas Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 There was a recent thread here about writing personal stuff on this forum. I am one of the people doing that..... because indeed I know I have friends here, and perhaps even more than that...... sort of a family ! Nina and I just arrived in the French Alps and had our first 'passes tour' today, and I was planning on writing you a few nice trailer - oops, I mean RIDE tales. But Dad called just now...... Mom is dying. Much quicker than expected after all - suddenly everything goes downhill, the cancer spreading. So we're packing the car with the most needed things and head north again, leaving the bike and the trailer here.... it will slow us down too much. Hopefully we'll have a chance later this year to get some relaxation after all, and bring you some ride tales. For now it looks like the book I was making for Mom will come too late for her......... I SO wish I was a faster writer. Will call in when we're back home. Bye all. Link to comment
BFish Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 thoughts with you and your family. Link to comment
Les is more Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 May your Mom's time be filled with peace and the love of her family as you see her on to her journey. Link to comment
ESokoloff Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 You sound upbeat & at peace as you've had time to prepare for this but your never really ready. So sorry Francois. Link to comment
Whip Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 We're all there with ya my friend....... Larry Link to comment
Selden Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 My mother and my father-in-law are both 86; things can change very quickly. Link to comment
Richard_D Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Take Care . Think of how lucky you are to have been brought up to be liked by so many . Link to comment
Boffin Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Thinking of you at and your Dad Francois. We all know these things must come but they are oh so hard to bear. Think of the good times and don't beat yourself up about the book. Andy Link to comment
Jerry_75_Guy Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 It's very hard to know what to say, even though my wife and I have been through it; just know we're all thinking of you and your family, and holding you all in our hearts. Link to comment
Firefight911 Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 We're riding/driving with you. Uplifting you, supporting you however we can from this side of the pond. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, your Mom, and your family as you move through this period. Link to comment
Wheels Rollin' Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 May your Mom's time be filled with peace and the love of her family as you see her on to her journey. +1, Francois... You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers... Live your dreams as she visualized you doing so in hers... ~ Bill Link to comment
Joel Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Peace to you and your family, Francois. You'll be in my thoughts. Link to comment
Twisties Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Thoughts are with you. Jan and Sharon Link to comment
bakerzdosen Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Best wishes and prayers for all of you Francois. Link to comment
stubble! Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 We'll be thinking of you, Francois. Link to comment
Semper_Fi Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 So sorry to hear Francios. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Luis and Annemarie Link to comment
George Brown Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 You will be in our thoughts and prayers! Link to comment
Pilgrim Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 God bless and comfort all of you who will miss her, Francois. Pilgrim Link to comment
Ken H. Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 My your family has had a challenging year so far. Sending wishes of strength your direction... Link to comment
OoPEZoO Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Always hoping for the best Francois. Our thoughts are with you Link to comment
beemerman2k Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Francois, may God bless your mother, and your family during this difficult time. Link to comment
leonb Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 We're all there with ya my friend....... +1 Leon Link to comment
SageRider Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Thoughts are with you, Francois. Link to comment
Heck Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Thoughts and prayers are with you Francois. Link to comment
hANNAbONE Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 dISTANCE mEANS nothing, Dutchy We're all here for ya...lean on us - we're ready to catch. Know that your mother is in the Hanna household prayer. Blessings: Link to comment
Mike05 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Francois, Please know you & yours are in our thoughts & prayers. Give your Mom a hug from all of us. Mike & Joyce Link to comment
Knifemaker Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 There is a tear in my eye for you and your dad... and a loving prayer for your mom....God Bless Link to comment
Albert Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Very sad to hear Francois. All my thoughts are for you and your family. Link to comment
EffBee Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 My prayers are with you, your Mom and your family, Francois. Link to comment
exwingnut Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 I am so sorry to hear of your Mom's illness, I lost both my parents in the last 3 years, my sincere condolences. Kindest regards, Steve Link to comment
JustJean Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 We have you on the prayer list Sir! Link to comment
tallman Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Francois, Your book is based on memories that both of you already share, and will forever. Finish it in her memory, it will be wonderful. Our prayers go out to all of you. Link to comment
Ron_B Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 Francois, that it's a part of life hardly makes it easier to bear the impending loss of a parent. Just know that your friends will be thinking of you and your family. Link to comment
Marek Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 there are a lot of friends here who will be with you - Mark Link to comment
subvet Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 you're a good son Francois. she and dad will cherish the time you have left with her. prayers Link to comment
Francois_Dumas Posted July 18, 2008 Author Share Posted July 18, 2008 Many many thanks for all your prayers and well wishes..... believe me, they are immensely appreciated! We arrived back home last night after a 'fast' drive. Fast is a relative thing in our Jeep Cherokee.... but we left the trailer and bike behind in France so we could make better time. It's a good thing we returned, because Dad hurt a muscle in his shoulder and now can't drive anymore.... ! The GOOD news is that Mom's under morphine, 'but' feeling well. She's been moved to a room of her own and is well looked after now, away from a cranky room mate and the daily routines of 'trying to get the sick people out of bed' that was the norm on the upper floors. She doesn't seem to realize WHY she is pampered so much.... but even if she's fooling us (and she might well be) we'll leave it as is. She seems happy, certainly looks better than before, and is joking with nurses and doctor. I am happy for her and can only hope she won't have any more pain like she had before. At the same time we are all hurting, seeing her and 'knowing' where we are at. It hurts having to take Dad up there... and he knows.... it hurts to joke with her and sort of 'pretend'. And yes, it even hurts not having a motorbike here now to ride off the pain, as I used to do before.... Instead I'll work on the book... and on some stories for the board..... even a one-day-vacation ride tale In the end we are grateful being here, having a daughter who came over to help Dad, being able to help both of them however inadequate the 'help' may be..... and being able spending time together. Link to comment
Les is more Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 The "help" comes from the heart and so could never be inadequate. These times are painful but also precious. That you can go through this life passage as a family is a gift. Link to comment
Bheckel169 Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 These are the moments that will connect you for all time, Francois. They're special for you, your mom, dad and the rest of the family. Being in the present with her will be forever. Bruce Link to comment
bmurphypdx Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 Francois, I lost my Mom two years ago after a long illness. I had spent a lot of time with her in the previous three years. Thought I was ready. I was not. I feel for you. My heart goes out to you and your family. Bill Link to comment
KTsRidin Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 Francois, please know that your on-line family is here for you. Blessings and peace to you and your relatives. I will ride in honor of your mom tomorrow. Peace be with you, Kirsten Link to comment
Francois_Dumas Posted July 23, 2008 Author Share Posted July 23, 2008 Thank you all. She may still be with us a few more weeks...... meanwhile we still have her laughing every day with old memories and the nurses are absolutely wonderful ! Link to comment
gottago Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 Dear Francois, My prayers are with you and your family. It's never easy but at least she has her family with her. Take care. Link to comment
algover Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 I'm glad I happened across this thread so that we can add our support. Our thoughts are with you, and we wish you strength in your difficult time. Peter and Jane Link to comment
Selden Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 With two aging parents, this thread has been helpful to me, as I think about what lies ahead. Thanks, all. Good luck, Francois. Link to comment
eddd Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 My eyes are teared as I type this and I have a chill even though it is hot in the house. My thoughts are with you, Nina, and your Dad as you go through this difficult time. I'm so glad your mother is able to interact with everyone, and know that she is loved. Link to comment
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